Sunday, May 8, 2011

Faux-pa of the Week: Door Situations

I don't know about you guys, but this is one of those things that irks me. People seem to be lacking when it comes chivalry these days; the action of holding doors, regardless of sex, seem to be on the decline. "It's cool, just go ahead and drop that in my face, that's fine."

I hold doors for everyone, as long as they're in the proper range. See, I think there's about 15 feet of space, maybe more depending on the situation, in which it is appropriate to hold the door for someone. Any more, you look like an idiot (trust me, I've done it), and you make the person you're holding it for feel awkward. "Do I do that little run-walk thing to show I'm coming? Do I just walk, or does that look like I don't care?" Maybe 15 feet isn't right, but you all know there's a range.

Now to break it down: There are many ways to hold/open the door for someone.

The "Here, let me hold this door for you as I stand in the doorway"
Thanks, I mean, it's nice of you to hold the door, and I get that you want me to go through first, but you're kind of in my personal space. I mean, points for holding the door, but there's something awkward about two people being in a small doorway at the same time. Unless it's a good looking man/female (whatever your preference), then it might be more acceptable.
In this situation, I try to get through the door as quickly as possible, but as gracefully as possible... which tends to end up with me looking awkward, because well, I'm awkward.

Next, the "I'm in a hurry but I want to be polite"
No, sir, that's fine. Almost seems like you're annoyed that you have to hold the door, but you have to thanks to society. No eye contact, no "you're welcome" when the walker kindly thanks you. If you're going to hold the door, at least be friendly about it. If you feel bothered by it, then don't do it.
In this situation, I have a tendency to do a "run-walk" since I feel like I'm bothering them and want to them to know I appreciate their effort, even if they seem incredibly bothered by me.

The "Lem'me swing the door open for you... HURRY! It's gonna close on you!"
Ahh, this seems to be popular with my generation. A person you're with is walking along with you and push the door as hard as they can expecting you to run through doing a James Bond stunt to get through before it shuts. I get it, you're trying to look cool, but in the process I tend to look... well, not so cool.
In this situation, I'm never ready for this. I always realize I'm supposed to go through the door milliseconds too late, so I "run-walk" (apparently I do this a lot), but I feel like maybe I should do a superhero dive.

The "I'll hold the door with my foot"
Usually not this extreme, although I have done this one before. This happens when a person holds the door with only their foot. Really? A foot? I'm not worth an arm? I guess holding out your arm requires more muscles than using your foot as a door stop.
In this situation, I again "run-walk" because I feel like I'm taking up too much of their time, and effort for that matter.

The "I'll walk through then hold the door for you" OR "I'll pull the door open and let you walk through"
Personal fave. The person either walks through then holds the door so you can walk through, or, if the door opens the other way, pulls the door open and allows you to walk through. Proper, and allows you to actually say thank you while making eye contact.
In this situation, I get a little giddy. I tend to have a big smile on my face, and it brightens my day... And HOPEFULLY I don't trip and make a fool of myself.

Door situations: have the chance of becoming a faux-pa depending on your method.

Sunday, May 1, 2011

Why did I start this, again?

During a mid-slumber break, the idea came to me. That's when I come up with some of my best (and worst, for that matter) ideas. From new products that could make me millions to plans for an art project that I was previously unaware I was going to create, sleep brings it to me. 

Why not start a blog? I've got enough things to talk about, rant about, praise and post.

Here we go.